Former Vanna frontman Davey Muise (also of Trove) has issued a statement on his mental health and recovery journey. Notably the statement arrives several months after allegations of sexual misconduct and emotional abuse were publicly made against him on Twitter (see here, here and here.)
In more recent years Muise has been working as a motivational speaker, sharing his life story and troubled upbringing. Muise‘s new statement reads as follows:
“Throughout the last decade, I’ve been on a journey that has taken me to the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. My mental health recovery from my trauma filled past has been a constant struggle throughout my life. It will always be. Through therapy in my early years, I discovered music and writing was my way to cope.
Over the years, sharing that music has always helped my journey, progress. If you’ve ever spoken to me, or if you know me well, you know that I share everything with anyone who will listen. Over time, I learned I wasn’t alone in my fight and the progress I made, made me think I was finally okay, that I was fixed.
However, I failed to recognize that this journey is a never ending one. When I began touring, I wasn’t yet equipped with the proper tools to be away from my support group, let alone support others. I made trauma bonds all over the world through music and did not understand how delicate those bonds can be. Most of those connections were brief, constructive and wholesome. Helping others simply helped me.
But through some of those connections, I became intertwined in people’s lives, and certain groups of people, that I wasn’t healthy enough to be in. I lacked healthy boundaries for myself, which made it impossible to create healthy friendships with those people.
Due to that, I created a space in with unknown harm could be done. Not having clear communication was unhealthy for myself and created unsustainable and unhealthy expectations of who I am, to others.
Though I’m proud of the progress I’ve made, I know I have a long way to go. My journey to better myself, to bleed out my toxic traits and unlearning years of negative practice, is ongoing forever. Earlier this year, I took a step back from public life and mental health work to resume therapy and focus on these issues.
I’m leaning new ways to create and respect boundaries for myself and how to clearly and effectively communicate with others. I will continue to strife to right my wrongs and own my failures.
This journey requires me to reach out to individuals and I’ve spent the last few months doing that. But as I continue to try and mend, I understand some of those friendships cannot be repaired on either side. I’ll take those as lessons learned for a better future me.
Mental health is fragile, it’s not a bargaining chip or a tool to maintain a connection with someone and everyone must protect their own. I will strive every day to constantly be a better version of myself, meet myself where I’m at and never take for granted the journeys and experiences of others.”
— dude. (@DaveyMuise) September 10, 2020
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