Dany Ciara, the now ex-wife of As I Lay Dying vocalist Tim Lambesis, has come forward with various allegations and accusations against Tim in a newly published interview with the BREWtally Speaking Podcast. The increasingly volatile relationship between the now divorced couple was at the heart of the mass exodus of members from As I Lay Dying in the fall of 2024.
As various personal footage of heated interactions between the couple began leaking out online, Tim issued this statement, claiming Dany had, “assaulted me and verbally/mentally abused me over 3 years.” He claimed to have, “multiple videos of her assaulting me”. He further stated that he had photos of a black eye he claimed she had given him and more. He also alleged to have filed a restraining order and have had a domestic violence investigation launched against Dany at the time of making the statement around November of 2024.
Dany would publicly respond later to Tim, posting this statement in January of this year, denying Tim‘s claims of a domestic violence investigation or restraining order ever being filed against her. She further claimed that the videos that Tim had of her that documented “abuse”, were, “instances of self-defense and outbursts against his ongoing physical and mental abuse, and repeated infidelity with hundreds of people.”
Clocking in at nearly 4 hours, this new podcast episode finds Dany discussing her upbringing, her initial meetings with Tim and their marriage, and the circumstances that led to its ultimately infamous dissolution. The conversation also includes various startling allegations, including an incident which Tim himself had previously mentioned in his above-mentioned statement. According to Tim, he was in possession of, “videos of [Dany] chasing me around the house with a knife or scissors.”
Dany went on to say of that at 2:34:07 into the video in this new podcast appearance:
“I do want to explain the context behind the biggest claim that he has against me, I guess, of me chasing him around the house with a knife. I will say I have pulled a knife on him more than once. There was this cycle of when things would escalate and I could feel it happening. like there were signs I knew when it was going to get physical.
And it started out with like Tim pinning me down, putting his body weight on top of me so I can’t breathe. I’d be screaming for help — which I do want to mention that we had several roommates, and a lot of them were men that Tim spent time with in prison. So I guess, I don’t know, they have some like bro code that no matter what like you don’t snitch… you always take his back. So they weren’t there to help me. Which I will, that’s another thing that I need to mention…’
“So [Tim] would… if I didn’t agree to quit being angry with him about something or be in the mood that he wanted me to, it would escalate to the point where like, you know, he’d have one of his mental breakdowns and then he would pin me down. He would strangle me — which I have evidence of, him strangling me.
…I have evidence of this too where it’s one of these times where he’s doing this to me and I’m screaming at the top of my lungs. And by the way, this is one of his so-called witnesses that he keeps mentioning. He keeps mentioning in comments and stuff about all this online. He has like eight witnesses that witnessed me abusing him and not the other way around.
One of his witnesses, I’m in there in our room screaming at the top of my lungs for him to come help me get Tim off of me. And like bloody murder, like screaming at the top of my lungs so loud that the neighbors called the police and he didn’t come help me. And I texted him the next day and I said, ‘I can’t believe you wouldn’t come help when I’m screaming for you like that. I don’t know if you heard me. Neighbors heard me. I know you were here. I know you were home.’ And I’m sorry I’m all over the place.”
She later went on to add:
“I just wanted to mention that that’s the credibility of the people that he has as witnesses for him of my abuse to him. And he, I even have a video of Tim assaulting me, and that guy that I’m talking about that was our roommate, turning his back and walking away. So he would protect Tim at all costs too.
It’s like this prison thing. I don’t know. But back to the story about the knife, I would feel it get to that point. I’d feel it coming. You know, there were obvious signs after so many times of it happening that like if there was a weapon by me, no matter what it was, I would pick it up and I would hold it out to him to keep distance between us because if I knew what would happen if he got close to me.
So, that’s the context behind the knife video. And I’m not ashamed of it. Like I’m not going to sit here and say sorry, if for someone, he’s literally 110 lbs heavier than me and fucking strangles me. And there was times where I thought he wasn’t going to let off of my throat. So like why would I let him get close to me? And then he says that I’m apparently charging towards him in this video, like coming at him with a knife, which I I don’t recall that happening. It could have, but if I’m walking towards him, like, I can honestly, honestly say the only time I ever pulled a knife out on him was to keep him away from me.
And I bet you anything that… if he were to show this video to people, which he has shown videos to people in the past without the audio, is because you can probably hear me saying in the in the audio like ‘stay the fuck away from me.’ You know what I mean? And I wanted to give context to that scenario, because I feel I have the right to defend myself against him and I don’t know why he doesn’t believe that I did, but I did.”
Dany shared screencaps of her text conversation with the roommate mentioned above during the podcast while stating the above. Dany also made allegations that her relationship with Tim eroded due to various factors, including frequent alleged infidelity on his part.
She further made claims that he was in possession of disturbing AI-generated imagery of a sexually inappropriate nature on his phone, to which she shared screencaps of conversations in which she claimed to have confronted him about it.
At around 2:59:30 in, she also showed logs of what she claimed were numerous police visits to their shared residence, with Dany stating that they were in response to “domestic violence calls.” She detailed an alleged incident that she claims resulted in physical violence between the couple.
According to her, Tim initially was arrested on suspected battery over the matter. Dany went on to show bruises she alleged she had sustained during the incident as well as screencaps of conversations she claims to have partaken in with Tim about it, you can skip ahead at the above link to hear her side on that incident and see the visual evidence she provided.
Dany claims to have later wrote a letter to the DA to have the potential charge dropped. Dany went on to offer the following explanation of that in this interview:
“I was just freaking out because I didn’t realize they were going to arrest him and take him to jail. And like I said, this was pretty early on in the relationship. And in the aftermath of that, you know, he was freaking out because it could potentially, the DA could press charges against him even though I didn’t. And that would affect his career and being able to travel to other countries, I think, is what his concern was. And so obviously, like I said multiple times now, I would have done anything to protect him and lie for him.
So I ended up writing a letter to the DA saying that I lied to the police and it was all my fault and I was the crazy one. And I have texts as proof of what I’m saying to you. Like texts between me and him, and me and the roommate that were there, about how I’m going to lie… I’m going to lie about this and that and I’m going to do whatever I can to get you out of this and I’m sorry.
And I took on the guilt even though he was the one who had physically assaulted me. And since I wasn’t ready to leave the relationship… obviously I wanted to protect him, protect his career. And it was just that’s just another incident where though I was being abused by him, I did what I could to keep it a secret and keep him safe from facing consequences, especially legally when it came to any of that.
And now when he tells the story, obviously like it works in his favor of like, ‘I have the proof she was the crazy one. Look at the letter she wrote.’ I also have texts saying, like drafting up the lie and saying I’m going to. I even have this… this is how absolutely brainwashed and nuts I was. Like the way that I was thinking during this time.
I was so desperate to protect him and the relationship and this lie for some reason, that l was willing to go to the extent of getting myself arrested to look like a crazy person. So, it makes sense why I was the aggressor in that situation. And I have I have texts about all this between us, so you know what I’m saying is true. But that was just another example I wanted to give of like that kind of ties into the bigger picture.”
There’s numerous other claims and allegations made against Tim in the interview, which you can watch in its entirety below. As of press time Tim does not yet appear to have publicly commented on these latest allegations put forward against him.
